This is not Self-improvement 2.0
Self improvement is a lone-wolf adventure. It’s sexy. It has its place, and it’s limited.
Why a relational coach?
Distinct from relationship coaches, who focus mostly on romantic outcomes, my work focuses more on the relational element of all our relationships.
There is something that only shows up only when we’re talking to or engaged in something with people.
These days I describe that something as the relational field. You’ve probably already experienced it in more than one way.
It’s how a social event has a vibe you can feel from the entrance, or how collaborations surface ideas that didn’t really come from one person.
Working with the relational field allows to work with what’s present for us so we can stop distracting ourselves with self improvement.
Life is uncertain. That’s an uncomfortable truth. This truth can make us feel like something is missing. We can learn to be comfortable with that feeling of uncertainty and other difficult truths about reality.
Here’s a glimpse into how we do it.
We start with an assumption:
That which seems missing is already present.
This isn’t problem solving. It’s more about learning to feel okay with uncertainty, both as it shows up in ourselves, and in a world that can feel endlessly uncertain.
We begin with what’s alive
Most of my coaching conversations begin from something that arose in relationship with someone or many someones.
The coaching conversation itself creates its own field, which we will often leverage for insights that would never have shown up in the lone-wolf environment of self improvement.
Ultimately, we keep coming back to what’s right here worth noticing. This is where we rediscover all of our resourcefulness.
If you’re curious, book a 30-minute convo with me.